When You Don’t Know What to Do?
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” Colossians 3:12-15
Life is not always easy. Most people don’t want to go through life alone; ideally, we all hope to live our days with someone we love. We want to buy a home, raise kids, and grow old together as a family. But the problem is, many people aren’t willing to do what’s necessary to get there. Things, like overlooking each other’s faults, pushing through the hard times, and forgiving freely, are not easy to do—but they’re key. Not just in building healthy relationships with one another here on earth, but also in living as a child of God. At times we all go through complex, confusing, and even tragic things that have unexpectedly imposed themselves on lives with little or no warning. If you find yourself arising to a day that is in turmoil, consider getting dressed for your day according to scripture.
How can we do that? How can we respond in tenderhearted mercy when harshness is directed at us? How can we be kind when other people are so mean? What does it look like to be patient and peaceful when this world is intolerant and chaotic? Our example is always and forever Christ. He saw each of our mistakes; He knew every sin we committed. He saw the ways we tore down our classmates, lied to our parents, lost our temper with our kids, coveted another life, and dishonored God Himself in our lives. But He still came anyway. Jesus wore a crown of thorns, took every beating, heard every insult, and willingly died on a cross to pay for our sins. And if He was able to forgive every last sin of ours, when we were the ones who sentenced Him to death, how much more freely should we who sin forgive one another?
Today, when you’re tempted to hold a grudge, respond in harshness, or rip into someone for their wrongdoing, let the message about Christ fill your life instead. Whenever you don’t know what to do, do this one thing first — clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, and humility.
Pull on gentleness, patience, and forgiveness. Wrap the cloak of love around them all as you go. (Colossians 3:12-15)
Deliberately put these things on just as you deliberately put on your clothes. Ask the Holy Spirit to strengthen and help you. As you step into any of today’s challenges clothe yourself first with these characteristics. Be intentional about keeping them in focus. Be specific in asking God’s help to demonstrate them as you walk. It will impact the day of turmoil and help bring God’s peace. In a day when peace seems impossible, this is the first step to having God’s peace rule your heart. Those around you, who share the difficult circumstances, will be steadied by your presence as you dress in the things only God can give in the measure you need today.
1. Who has offended you recently? How did you respond to that person?
2. Commit to memory Colossians 3:13: “Make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.”
12 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. 13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. 14 Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful. 16 Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. 17 And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.